Forgive him?

Ok, well coming from a guy that has done the same thing before I will try to give you the best advice I can... Wether you hadn't seen him in a while should'nt really be a factor if the guy really does truly care and love you. You also can't always blame alcohol it's kind of a cheap way out.. believe me I've done it and so have many of my friends. So it's really in your court at this point, people can only tell you so much but ultimatly it's your decision. Just remember it's easy to forgive but, a smart person will never forget. Hope I helped a little at least.

I would immitdiately say no. But it's your job to decide if he's worth it.

I might give him a 2nd chance. Neither are good excuses(drunk or not seeing her for a while). There is no good reason to cheat. If I did forgive him, it would always be in the back of my mind that it could happen again. And if it does happen again, there would be no more chances.

Absolutely NOT .  None of the above has anything to do with him being unfaithful . It is a choice he made .  Again one has nothing to do with the other .  It is a character flaw therefore he's not quite the catch after all .  You will never trust him again and you shouldn't .  Move on .

Hi, ------------ My friend Equus gave you a perfect answer (2 thumbs up). What do you expect him to say: Yes I cheated and I was aware to it ? ...... He knows that by saying it that's the end of your relations, so he gave you those very old excuses..... (10,000 years old). A real man is responsible to what he is doing and pay for his mistakes. You still can give him a 2nd chance (if you feel that he is "worth" it and might "learn the lesson" and never repeat it). Please don't be mad at me but there are high chances that it will repeat. Sorry !. -------- Best regards,

I agree with the rest, if he cheated once, chances are he'll cheat again and alcohol and not seeing you for a while is definatly not a reason for doing what he did, it's just an excuse and a pretty poor one at that. If he loves you he should be able to control himself and his liquor.

However, if you love him and think he deserves another chance, then I would take it real slow and have him prove to you that you can trust him again. Did you find out that he was cheating or did he fess up and tell you himself? If you found out yourself, then I would say don't bother wasting your time and to move on. If he came out and told you that he cheated, then it at least shows some kind of remorse and guilt to where he may truly be sorry and have the ability to committ to you without cheating again. If you give him a second chance, will you be able start fresh? It will be a long road with that in the back of your mind and learning how to trust him again.

Good luck to you

okay, my boyfriend like cheated on me once and I caught him and I said to myself I am going to forgive him this once but I still haven't forgotten. In matter fact after that incident I became really paranoid and kinda clingy which I never was. I began to lose myself and control and I hated it. I believed he caused me to behave this way. But anywaz look I know its really difficult but I wouldn't forgive my boyfriend if he was to do it again. In matter of fact god bless him. lol But no don't forgive him and move on and find someone who will respect you. By the way people do change, my boyfriend changed for the better and we are happy. The decision is ultimately yours.

It's your decision. Not seeing you, whether it be a week or a year, is not an excuse. It's never an excuse. Drinking is a convenient was of cleansing one's hands of any responsibility, a dangerous habit to get into. The only way I could see drinking being an excuse is if he HAD NO MEMORY or what he did (blacked out). In that case, even though he shouldn't have been that drunk in the first place, its somewhat ok considering he basically didn't know what was going on. 

Another factor to consider is how long you've been together. If it was a brand new relationship it's a little more permissible. If you've been long established it's not ok. Cheating is bad...the worst thing you can do in a relationship. If you do forgive him, make it once.