Leona, you are posting questions with scenarios that are not yours and allowing others to think that they are.
You have another question in which you say you have been with your boyfriend for two years, but you've now discovered he's cheating on you.
I suspect all of your questions are either completely made up, or embellishments of tales of woe from your ladies group friends.
Yes, it is unfortunate that your friends have ended up with losers.
Yes, some men cheat.
However, you seem unable to realize that because SOME women have been screwed over does not mean ALL men should be tarred with the same brush.
Has it ever occurred to you that the reason why it seems to you that all men are bad is because you are not attending any groups where you hear positive stories?
No one is attempting to tell you that you cannot believe the way you do.
What we are saying is that you are trying to sway everyone on Yedda over to your way of thinking by saying that your beliefs are the truth, and the ONLY truth - and THAT, my sour little lemon, is NOT ACCEPTABLE.
You not only refuse to acknowledge that there is another view of thought; you denigrate, disparage and attempt to destroy anyone with a more positive viewpoint.
Were these scenarios actually yours, you would find that we would offer you sympathy as well as advice. That's because even those of us in happy relationships (where we trust our partners and know they are not cheating) are aware that there are others who are not so lucky.
But we don't need to follow your advice to hire detectives. We are lucky. Our partners love, trust and respect us and we do the same to them.
Leona, misery loves company but we decline your invitation.
In other words, we don't need to crowd into the boat along with you and the Sisters of Lamentation. You and your friends are doing a wonderful job all by yourselves.
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