Orion, this is the same thread i started earleier, i just want to covey that i believe it is the parents causing this to make her feel "dirty", and how she thinks tht if other people know she will be dirtty. how can i subtly tell her this is not so, and (i will be seeing her soon with mostly alone time) how can I do these things to her so she will become comfertable (the whole touching thing). I feel that she believes that we dont need to do this. We dont, but i feel it would add a whole new level to our relationship. Also, she says she is very mature, and i kno she is, but the thing is, i dont want to hurt her doing this. is there a way to get the point across to her that doing this is perfectly natural, and at the same time getting her to believe me, and me doing it to her to show her that it can be enjoyable., do you catch my drit. I dont want sex, b/c marriage is the only time id do tht.
I kno we dont have to do this, but is there a way to get her to believe me. the first time i did it, i kno she enjoyed it, is there a way i kan show her that is ok, so i kan do it again (mayb making her feel aroused in a sense, and if so, how do i go abt doing tht).
Just any ideas so i can continue this practice, i feel that we are far enough into our relationship that we should be doing this. Also, we talked about the first insident after it happened, and she was telling me abt how she felt "dirty" and tht it just wasnt right. Hope this helps.
Plus, i dont know if this would help, but the first day i tried this, i noticed that wht she was wearing was not the norm, like she wore it to make me feel...well you know. I noticed the stuff she was wearing underneath her pants wasnt boxers, but underware, b/c her pants were basically clear (long story on hwo i kno that, but i sware it is NOT cuz i am a perv) . it is lik she is sending me a mixed message, that she wants me stimulated, but she doesnt wanna be
Thank you for yorur help so far. :)