Ex and I won't leave each other alone.

My ex and I were off and on for almost 3 years. For almost a year, he started talking to a girl out in California. When we got back together, they stopped talking. He moved out to Las Vegas to be with family and we broke up, but talked everyday. I officially ended things when I found out she came to visit him. They then went into a relationship. He would contact me by email and text, but I'd ignore him, but somehow I gave in and we started talking again. He came home to visit and I went to visit him. He ended up cheating on his girlfriend with me. He moved out to California to live with the girlfriend for the summer. He calls everyday and/or texts when he isn't with her. She went through his phone and found the text messages from our conversations and broke up with him. I don't know what to feel or think right now. He's my best friend and I'm still very much in love with him, but confused. Help?


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harryvan
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While inertia saves energy in physics, in human relations it is a dangerous trap because it is so easy to enter and so difficult to escape. So you are entrapped by inertia but you should realize that you are in a trap with no exit except for pain and disappointment. This ex cheats wherever he is and with whomever he is. For your own sake (don't worry about him) get out now before there are serious complications. You have nothing to gain and EVERYTHING to lose.
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Sounds to me like it's a "greener grass" situation.  He seems to think that he's better off with you when he's with her and better with her when he's with you...  A dangerous spot to be in.  He's got your heart on a string and knows how to pull it to make you dance to his tune.  I think you're better off letting this guy know that if he wants to be with you it has to be ONLY with you, and if he wants to be with someone else he needs to let you go.
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Live simply, love generously and  care deeply.

 

This man is a player, I'm so surprised why you tolerate this behavior.  I think that you have a low self-esteem issue.  Someone who has a healthy self-esteem would not tolerate this crap from anybody, including the ex-husband.

    You need to love and respect yourself  first and you can do that by refusing to give in to him.  You said you still love him.  You need to love yourself first.  You are allowing this to happen.  You don't have to. 

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Sorry to say your X is using you and his GF .  He knows you still love him and he can have you whenever he wants and that is when his GF is not around , he doesn't care about your feelings or respect you or them .   Something tells me he's not just sleeping with the 2 of you .He is a playing all of you .  Respect yourself and tell him to take a hike .

 
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harryvan is right you can still be friends but when you feel as if its going to get complicated just stop and think or if being friends is going to be complicated then dont be and move on trust me you can move onits hard but it has to be done no use in staying its you and your feelings if he could have cheated on his gf he could do it to you so get out no sense in staying
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