Emotional problems

Don't be so hard on yourself. You made a mistake. Unfortunetly, we learn alot of life's lessons by our mistakes. It really was none of this guy's business what you did before you got into a commited relationship with him and although your honesty is admirable, there are some things in your life that should stay personal. I hope you realize that it is to your advantage to see how he has reacted to your honesty. Just because a man says he had plans to marry you, does'nt mean that he is the person you should marry. Everyone is different and before you beat yourself up for making a mistake, understand it is his opinion that is really bothering you. Alot of people look for an ideal to marry. These same people can make life hell if you don't live up to this ideal. I would tell him you shared this information because you are honest and can be trusted. If he cannot accept who you are then tell him your really not interested in marrying someone so judgemental and move on. There are way too many fish in the sea to get hooked on someone you can't be honest with. Your not "marked", your only human.

Sometimes it happens this way, that is why women must take time .... a lot of time to think things over befoe sharing them with their man.  Many men have a difficult time forgiving infidelity of any kind.  Yet, they expect their women to do so.  It seems to be built in to the male psyche.  So, learn from this experience and next time don't be so quick to be completely honest with your love.  It's sad, but true.

First, understand you are not marked for life. You never had a commitment to him in the first placed. You had a right to date the other guy. Some guys are jealous and don't like to hear that you dated another guy. That is past history. You don't have to be sorry about that . You never betrayed him or destroyed any trust that he thinks you two had as far as I can see. Do you agree? So forget about being marked for life. It isn't  so. He now drops the bomb on you--I am thinking about marriage, but--note the but, you  have cheated on me and I can never trust you anymore. So does he really want to marry you or not? Sounds like he has found an excuse to not marry you. The excuse is something you never done in the first place--betray him in a committed relationship that never really existed. Has he go you confused? Maybe he thought you were in a committed relationship but if you were he should have told you about it. You are allowing yourself to feel very down and depressed because he is telling you that you are the bad one in this relatonship. I guess he never does any thing wrong. He never left you in an unclear relationship in the beginning; if he loved you he would have made it clear. He is going back on you and making you the bad person. I wouldn't take it! As others have said, there are other good men out ther; if he won't stand up and treat you right and quit the blame game, walk away. Don't let any man put you down and allow yourself to feel worthless and depressed over his comments. Llife is too short to live that way!!

Well you did have another boyfriend, and even though no didn't phisicly(by this i mean sexually) cheat on him.  You did emotionally.  And why did you tell him?  This is the type of crap you don't tell the significant other (that you want to keep).  It doesn't matter if it's the truth, if you feel bad, or if your friend try to make you tell.  If you want his trust don't say a word .

I hope you fell happy with yourself.

My advice is one at a time.  Believe me this kind of crap never comes up.