Hey, Samya
Listen, I went threw the same thing. I learned that letting the thoughts of infidelity eat me up, worring and questioning him made the actual situation WORSE. It seems normal to be concerned but in the end if all he hears is about how you are super uncomfortable with her, you will become "Annoying" to him, which will make it more appealing to him to read her e-mails or talk with her at school. I dont mean to be negitive but heres my theory. Think about it, if he becomes unhappy talking to you about things, or finds that you are unhappy with his new female friend, he will as men do, try to play the "Insecurity card" or the "Jealousy" tip. as women we are territorial, and what we have worked had for to keep alive and strong should be ours!, but they (men) dont understand that, they will believe that we are trying to knock there pride. and in the end of the long ongoing emotional dissagreement she will become the "breath of fresh air" because she will be the one complimenting him, and agreeing with every little thing he blinks at..... So FIRST DO THIS, put her behinde you, act as though she doent exist, dont speak of her for a while and if he should speak of her, just listen as if she were an elderly old lady with great advice and wisdom.....sounds funny but it works. also try complimenting him on little things, like they way he smells, or praise his ideas, and read into his thoughts, what he shares is important...ALL OF IT, so although it seems a little rediculas, try it out, do it subtly but discreatly enough where he might actually notice. THEN try this, invite her for lunch, make it less personal by having a barbeque where there is a mix of company, rather than having her inside the house. Now i dont remember if you had said he was a coach or teacher, but If hes a coach make it a "team thing" have him invite them over for a casual cookout after a game. and if hes a teacher, then visit him at his class with things for a picknick, but do it for the whole class. Then see how she reacts to your presents, and how he reacts while the three of you are all in the same space together. It will allow you to be spontanious, ans mingle with his work, youll learn a few things also, which will give you better insite to what he does all day, and it will open up the realm of conversation at home. doing it unexpectedly will DEFINATELY open the door to some pretty interesting questions when he arrives home, so just tell him you were feeling spontaineious, (even bring the children) that will make him more surprized. and keep his mind off of the million other questions he may have. NOW REMEMBER dont get too posessive, let him mingle, and you mingle too, ask the students simple questions, like "Is he funny" " has he done anything that made them laugh", " is he messy" "Does he talk alot?" "has he told the class any dumb jokes" and let them in on funny things about him, it will give you the oppertunity to praise him and make him feel like a million dollars, especially if your girls are there talk about what a great father he is, and then what a supportive husband he is if its a team thing, bragg about him a little, do the same things but make sure you know he can here you boasting........ TRUST ME HE'LL LOVE IT!!!! Then later on after the backyard barbeque, or school house picnic, turn the evening down with something sexy and sensual, (I dont mean to get too personal) but this will focus the mood of intamacy, after a great day. Thats what I did, and trust me, if its something hes trying to hide, then he'll be extreemly uncomfortable and youll see her "friendliness" hush to a dull roar while your there.... I believe this will work it did for me, i just had to do something more than complain to make him realize all he needed to make him happy and to feel invicible was for me to tell him every so often, (even if i knew his head would swell up a little)......