That happens to me too all the time. I'm in middle school and usually around the end of the day (8th hour) my ears get hot and turn red. It's super embarrassing and I can't control it! I asked my brother what was wrong and he didn't exactly know but he said just don't put ice on it or something cause that will just make it even more hot. I have learned NOT to think about it or it won't go away. I still don't think it's because of my emotions or anything though. It happens randomly. Sorry, I don't know what causes it or how to fix it. But I wish you the best of luck!!!! 