Dutch Couple: Adopted Child Doesn't Fit

Hi,

Their rationale is obviously a transparent lie and shameful. I paraphrase a Jesuit saying that if they could have a child for its first five years anyone could take it but it doesn't matter because it will always belong to the Jesuits. This puts the lie to their statement. It sounds to me that they did not shower this unfortunate child with love and caring and were probably repaid in kind. The authorities should ensure that this couple never be given a child for fostercare or for adoption. They should now try to find a warm and loving home for this child and hope these past 7 years will be quickly forgotten.

The "parents" in this example, may be mentally ill.  Someone should check into the family life of the two mentioned biological children to find out what kind of life they have.  This is going to scar all three of the children I would bet.  Now what? The other two live in fear too, because after all Mom and Dad have very shallow concepts of what committment and love is. 

I am totally shocked and appalled at this story. I agree with the other Yedda users that this is a bogus excuse. A child raised at birth and even children not raised at birth will ALWAYS be accepted culturally if the parents ACCEPT them. Clearly these parents (and I use this word very loosely) did not accept this child and it is for this reason, and this selfish reason only, that they gave the child back to the adoption agency. I pray that this child will flourish/succeed wherever she goes and quickly forgets the hurt she must feel from the first 7 years of her life.

it may be correct.but before you give up why don't u try once again?

understand her feelings first........ what she need...and how she interact with the things.Then try to change from that level. so that it may give better result.. its my opinion....Because u have put lot of efforts till now why should you be waste them........