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Dumper not happy?

i was dumped after 4 yrs, she just fell out of love.so after 2 weeks of no contact she writes how am i doing, i say thank you for asking in doing good. she says glad to hear it...., why does the dumper get mad when the dumpee moves on, should i say i was not good? do they want to hear that. she would dump me every 6 months and the first contact from her i would go running back, not this time.is that why.


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"Having eyes, but not seeing beauty; having ears but not hearing the music; having minds but not perceiving the truth; having hearts that are never moved and therefore never set on fire. These are the things to fear." -Tetsuko Kuroyanagi

Truthfully, yes.  I'm sure she would have been happy to hear that you were miserable, that way she would know how loved she was.  This would boost her ego.  I think you would be better off not speaking at all for a while.  You were together for a long time and you deserve time to move on, and meet other people.  You have no reason to talk with her.  You can even tell her the next time she calls that you're great, and that you'd really prefer not to speak with her... you have nothing to say.

 
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi, ----------- You are absolutely right, she is used to a certain familiar pattern: She dumps you and than when she only hints you crawl back.... You have to make it clear to her that this time it's a totally different story: If she wants you she'll have to convince you that she is worth that you return to her (she'll have to "win" your heart back)..... and that it won't be easy.... and you'll consider it be on your terms..... ---------- Best regards,

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you are so right, she has never said i miss you or want me back, just littlle lines like that then i go running. she never says sorry, so u see even know she dump me she wants me to chase her, not this time. thank you, a simple i was wrong, i want you, anything like that before i will even speak again. but i cant blame her, i let her treat me that way. thanks.

Posted 2008-11-24T17:07:31Z
 
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi Eric, ---------- That is simply great ! - Once you realize where you went wrong you'll sure know what to do (how to behave) next time. I truely wish you the best of luck. You have now a new friend !.

Posted 2008-11-25T05:40:00Z

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