When is enough Enough?

When they stand in between you teaching your kids between right and wrong.  And do a lot of explaining to your kids about what is going on.  They are yong and you only get one shot at teaching them.  To me I figure that "nothing" should stand in between your and your kids.  As to my wife I tell her to "never" put me or anything between her and our babies..... "NOTHING"  And remember they are going to remember what you do as mom.  Believe me what you do will effect them the rest of their lives.

Do the kids live with you most of the time and if so then you will be teaching them most of what they will learn. When it come to your kids nothing should be disrepectful or intrusive. I have told my ex many times that because they live with me 90% of the time then he should respect my rule and what I am teaching them. Don't go behind my back to try to be the "good guy". Just remember that you are Mom and that shoud be enough if you have any concerns.

When there is a split and dad has a new lady - well, he has moved on. I am hoping that you also have moved on. There is an adjustment, but your role is mommy just as it always will be. The only thing that should matter now are the children. Believe me, they are watching both of you. They also have to learn to accept the changes. How you two handle the split affects them too. Be available to your children, their dad, and his new lady when the children are with them. After all, she will be caring for them too. And, you and the children should be able to telephone each other too. You'll be missing each other.  Remember this is an adjustment for all. As far as being disrespectful or intrusive, well don't be disrespectful, don't overdo the telephone calls, look at this time as a short vacation for you and the kids, follow my advice and it will make it easier for everyone involved.

I don't know the details of your split, but it will make it easier for you too if you take the time when the children are away to relax and take a breather. Do things that you haven't been able to do for a while. After all, you are a single woman again. Enjoy!!!

I know its easier said (by someone else) than done, but what else can you do but move on. Don't linger - that just makes it hurt longer. It takes time, but it will happen. Believe me, it may not feel like it, but you are not alone.

Also remember one other thing your kids will always be YOUR LOVE, YOUR LIFE AND YOU HAPPINESS.  When it comes to a spouse one can only hope that they will stay stay with you for life. But one's weekness will show up unexpected.   

u shud lay low and give them there space nd just spend time wiff ur kids on ur side of life.

That can be as fine of a line as thread to some degree it may be streatched but never be broken. It is up to you and your ex to work this out.But dont leave out the new lady in your life as she should be involved also this way the 3 of you can agree on whats best for kids involved. When does the ex-wife involvement become disrepectful and intrusive as showing up with out you knowing and if she should say a negetive statement to your new lady friend in front of your children.