Divorced

Hi,
With all respect, don't push her.  She might be willing to go out of her divorce gradually, she might need some quiet peacefull time with herself, she might enjoy the freedom she got.  
How ever if after some time you don't see any change that would be very nice if you attend to it.  Take her out, make other friends do it as well, introduce her to new people.  Encourage her, gently, to start living.....
If you are a real frien you must be there when she needs you but give her time and space.  
Hope she will find her way and find love and happiness.
Best regards,
D"r D. Oron

Be her friend.  Do not give advice, she needs to vent, be a good listener.  Divorce plays on your nerves and brings lot's of stress.  She will go through several emotional stages and is not ready to dive back into the dating game.  Keep her posted of current events without invading her privacy.  She needs hugs, laughter and a good friend. 

Being in this same position myself, I can tell you that the last thing she is probably thinking is how much she feels like going out away from her kids until she is able to mourn the death of her marriage. Everyone takes things differently. I have friends who are making plans for their first outing before "the body is cold". The pajamas thing is different. You should urge her to talk to a counselor (to help her sort her feelings out not because you think she is depressed as she may resist that thought) because that is not good for her or her children. My attitude through many family deaths and now this is that I will live each day as though I will one day have a life again. It becomes habit and then it becomes normal to carry on in a new way. Just call her and maybe the two of you go to lunch even if it is just fast food because she is afraid she may cry in a restaurant. It will not be so overwhelming to her. You are a good friend!

My son is trying to get custody of his children. He has retained an a lawyer. The lawyer told him he cannot get full custody but might be able to get shared custody. What does that mean? His wife is the worst Mother on this earth. She tells them they are her pay check and if they live with their Dad she won't have any money. Isn't there help for Fathers who are trying to get custody of their children? It seems like I have heard of some group who does help Fathers as for the courts is concern. He has the kids over 180 days a year and still has to pay child support when the kids are with him all summer. That just doesn't seem right. He pays about $60.00 a week for all three kids, yes that is a low amount but my Son doesn't make enough to pay more, and why is right for him to pay this when the kids are with him. The system is really messed up. Please help. Donna