a friend of mine suggested that i need counselling. regarding my marriage. I dont love my wife anymore and I am in love with a family friend. I got married in December 2003, in April 2004 i saw a colleagu of my wife at home. My wife told me that she was outside and saw him walking past and was lost and he asked him for water. I believed her. In 2005 our first child was born. a year later i heard rumour that my wife was dating this guy. I asked my wife, she denied it and accuse me of not trusting her, that made me feel bad. But rumour was so strong that I lied to my wife that i saw a magicien and why did she lie to me. it was only then she confessed that she slept with the guy once (in our bed). I was shocked and never trust my wife ever since, loved my child so much that i taugth divorcing my wife will mke me loose my child as well. My life changed ever since, i loved my wife and forgave her in my heart i had hatred. then i cheated also as a revenge (she never find out). now we have 3 kids and i see there is no love on my side. we have no romance, dont go out, just dont love her but i dont want to leave her as well for the sake of the kids, i love my kids so much that i want to be there for them, see them everyday. i will agree if my wife decided to go and live the kids but she would not do that as she also love them. So i am thinking of being with my family and having an affair. The lady i am in love with is not aware of how i feel, she is closer to me than she is to my wife. she trust and confide in me. so i woory that if i tell her how i feel, our friendship migth not be the same. if you can help i will be glad.
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