Disrespectful wife

one or two things is going on,   either you are a wife abuser  and I pray for her that she gets away from you or if I am wrong than you need to get  a divorce because once people show you who they are beleive it life is to short to be in an unhappy marriage.

Hey Rodray.  My husband has promised and tried to change his ways.  Bad things that affect our lives in major ways.  I've decided that I either have to accept him, all of him, or say good-bye to the marriage.  I've actually had to end the marriage, however, he refuses to accept it.  That's a different story! lol  If you can't deal with it, and she won't listen to your side (make sure you're actually listening, again, I don't know the actual problems) then maybe you should consider counseling.  If she refuses that, then I would seriously consider separation.  Again, don't know if that's possible, it's not always.  Good luck.

Hi Rodray, I have to say that I wholeheartedly agree with you that the work you do in the home is much harder work; having done both over the years. You never get a raise nor see a project to fruition but keep taking care of the family anyway.  One thing you did mention makes me wonder though, when you said that you were not the sole breadwinner now and the for better or worse comment...are you a stay at home dad due to some involuntary occurrence? If that is the case, is it possible that you are a little sensitive and so are taking what your wife says as disrespectful because you do not feel that you should be respected any longer? It happens to some women also, when they go from having money to handing that power and trust over to their spouse. Every purchase can make them feel as though they are using someone elses money and therefore, sitting with a hand out...when it could not be further from the truth in reality. Our expectations run deep though and how we see ourselves affects what we get from others. Relax what you are expecting, pay wise, from yourself and take on the motto that you earn every penny she makes. If you are having trouble with this, try counseling as you would be surprised how easy it is to turn it on yourself...with or without help from your wife.  Take care.