Disrespectful wife

Hi,
You have 2 options:
1:  To live with it, suffer, loose your self confidence.
2:  Dump her and find someone that will deserve you. 
I can hint you what I would do, without any dubt:  I would NOT even consider the 1st option.......
Best regards,

Maybe you could elaborate on this.  What is disrepectful to one person may not be to another.  That said, I will assume since you state she promises to change that she knows she is being disrespectful.  Dumping someone is always the easy answer.  Fixing a problem within the relationship is harder.  Finding a solution depends on what the disrepect is.  For example, she belittles you vs. she is dancing naked on the bar with 10 guys lol...I always suggest 1st talking it out and making sure the other person understands COMPLETELY how their behavior makes you feel.  2nd...you need to learn to set healthy boundaries within your relationship and adhere to them.  If it is something really bad you need to explain to her that you will not accept the behavior continuing and have a plan to make a change yourself, since you can't force another to change or respect you.  If you wish to provide more info I'll be glad to try to help further.  Good luck!

ps.  I went over to your profile and saw your earlier questions.  Are you still a stay at home dad?  I will throw some information your way.  Some women feel that if the man is not providing, he is less of a man.  That in and of itself leads to disrepect.  It also leads to a female NOT being interested in sex.  Women need differently than men, especially when you're talking about sex!  If we don't respect you...we aren't drawn to you.  If this is the issue and has been, then in order to correct it you must re-enter the work force.  It sounds to me like that may be the 1st problem you need to resolve.

I see what you are saying.  And her attitude is wrong.  I was just pointing out that if you are staying home with the kids and not 'out' working, she may not feel respect toward you.  What you are experiencing is the same thing many women have dealt with and still do.  The person staying home starts to get treated like the hired help, "without pay".  I still think you should re-enter the work force and re-examine your relationship.  You can't demand that someone show you respect, but you can damn sure demand that they do not show you disrespect!  You are seeing what women have known forever.  If you choose to be the caretaker of the home and children, you lose your independence and probably feel stuck.  What you may not realize is that the longer you remain out of the work force the harder it becomes to get back in.

I would add one thing tho; if you are staying for the sake of the children, they are not learning a very good example of what love and marriage is.  They are not learning respect, for sure.  I still think you should re-enter the work force and re-examine your relationship.