Dating a younger woman. Is it OK?

well i would say your with her because your either attracted to her and like her or love her. so i say as long as you know what your in for keep it going both of you guys are happy, right?

It's a little unusual, but I don't believe the Christian churchs have anything specific about age difference.  I think it comes more under the rule of common sense.  It sounds like both of you need some growing up to do.  Why aren't you going out with women your age and maturity?  Now that you're dating someone that can't buy hard liquor, vote or do some other things are you trying to be her father and take care of her?  Nine years at your age means you are about 30% older than she is, she las 30% less life experiences than you have, she's only been out of high school about 2 years and you should have graduated from a university and worked at a job for 5-6 years.  Other than physical attraction, how much do you really have in common? Bad idea!

importance of age become less when we get older, specially to the lovers.. and there is no rule in the church about age limit or age gap unless one of you is underage, or i mean not legal.

so go fot it.. if you think that is right, just go. try to approach some person who is related her/his job to the church..

i think there's nothing wrong about your situation right now, if you love her and she loves you, why not...... gudlak

Well people who dont like it I say get over it. Im 20 and my mans 29 we both will be having birthdays in December as well and we just had a daughter. I love him to death and I say go for it its just an number and 18 is legal so if your happy just continue on. We attend church also and there fine with it. As long as you both treat eachother with respect its all ok. Communication and patience is what ive learnt you need though simply because my boyfriend is 29 he has older friends and likes the bar of course I cant go yet but he gos with buddies because id never want the hole age thing to hold him back from living life.

Colo Bob is completely right. Its just math. She is 30% less experienced than you.

Personally, I dont see anything wrong with dating someone 10 years older/younger than you. I have actually been in a similar situation, having dated guys 10-11 years older than me. I liked them because they were funny, established, wordly, and experienced. While I had more life experiences than most people my age, there is no way I could compete with someone who had 10 years on me. Thats why it didnt work out.

Part of growing up is gaining those experiences... and more often than not, you have to screw up to learn.

So you have to understand that dating her will not be easy. While it may be pleasant, it will be equally as frustrating. You are going to have to have a lot of room in your heart for forgiveness, and a lot of patience.

Good luck.

I do geneology  and in that i found many men who were in 40's or 50's marrying 20 something women. No it is not wrong. (IT WOULD BE WRONG IF SHE WERE UNDER AGED SAY 14 OR 15 . Anything over the age of 18 is considered legal and ok. In your case there's only about 8 yrs. Difference. Go for it marry the gal before she gets away especially if you love her.

Biblically speaking(this is based on customs at that time) mary was espoused to be wed to joseph at the age of 15 . Guess what joseph wasn't a young man he was already older than 21.   See any simularities here.

Hopes this helps

chief48,

Sure, it is ok to date either a younger or older person.  Age is just a number and she may be more spiritually mature than other women her age.  You do need to keep in mind that a younger person doesn't have as many experiences in life, so you will need to be supportive and patient with her.  She is still learning and probably hasn't experienced many of the things that you have.  Be helpful and willing to teach her when asked.  Encourage her to continue her education and she will catch up in no time!

~ nmpb ~

No. This is OK. Just make sure you treat her right and she is not just some gold digger. God Bless, Ricki.