What do you think about a dad introducing the woman he's dating as just a friend to his 6-year-old? If they are not showing affection around the child, do you think it's okay? Sometimes activities are with her kids, other times just girlfriend, dad, and his daughter. The separation happened 3 months ago. Thanks for your feedback!
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I think kids aren't stupid and the only one he's fooling is himself.
Are you the girlfriend or the ex wife?
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Hi Whrlygrl,I would say that he is a sensetive and smart guy. Only 3 months passed and he doesn't want to hurt his child so he calls you (or her) "friend". That's OK for the time being. If those relations will develope and get closer I believe he'll show affection, in front of the child, too. No reason to run in this case, going step by step in telling the truth seems to me much smarter and much more responsible (and a smart attempt not to hurt his child's feeling). Best regards,
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Most professionals advise that you give your kids at least a year before you involve them with a new love interest. Three months is a very short window. Your kids are still getting used to the idea of their parents being separated and that in and of itself is confusing enough. Also, keep in mind that if this love interest does not work out, it will be yet another loss to your child. Take your time and right now attend to your child's best interests.
Shelley Stile
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My parents divorced when I was around 7 and my dad had a different woman almost every time he came to pick me up. After a while I understood it was not safe to get attached. From a personal point of view I think it is a bad idea to confuse children by dating too soon after a break up but from what you ahve described that is not the situation. They are doing family sort of activities with other children involved. If the two of you are smart you will do your best to make friends with your respective new mates because when you aren't around, those people are with the kids and you don't want the children caught in the middle of a range war. The best interest of the children will be served by their parents being cordial and not saying bad things about the other one in front of the children. You guys have a long job ahead of you raising a 6 year old child. Keep it peaceful and respectful.
It's waaaaayyyyyyy too fast! I completely agree w/Shelley and Belinda, and couldn't disagree more w/OronD. Doesn't want to hurt the child?? Kids aren't as naive as you think, even at 6. They will never forget this unstable time in their lives; especially if Dad puts himself first over his child. Dad better take care of his other matters first before jumping into another relationship. If not, that's his choice. They should see each other on their own time and leave everyone else out of it until more time passes. Just don't subject an innocent child who will just get more confused (read what Shelley and Belina said). So when it doesn't work out with this one, then is Dad gonna bring someone else home after 2 months? Not smart.
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If the dad was smart and caring, he wouldn't subject his kids to a new person in his life so fast. Children are very sensitive and might rebel. I agree with all the other answers.
the genration right now, is too forward and they can understand the feelings of an adult and matured Dad.... He's not cheating them at all.... afterall there's a need of sex to all the creatures same as the need to have food.... its an natural feeling tht comes to ur nerves after regular intervals and there is no need to create an issue out of it, at any cost.... if both the persons are happy then their kids must accept the fact with warm welcome.... or else dislikes might create a feeling of guilt in thier minds.... so take a chill pill and think bout the same situation if u are at the position of the "Dad" u described above....
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