Contemplating having sex with another man even though I love my partner with all my heart.

Do NOT go off and have sex with the first virile stud who comes into view!

If your sex life used to be satisfying, you must identify what has happened in order to bring about the change in your boyfriend.

Absent any emotional difficulties or stresses, the most likely cause is something physical. Has he had a check-up lately? If not, perhaps he should.

If he gets a clean bill of health, then there is some sort of emotional reason causing his performance issues. If you can pinpoint the cause, then the two of you can work together to address it (which will probably help eliminate it).

If it is merely a case of experience (or lack thereof), then why not take charge one or two nights a week?

Introduce a new activity! Show him what you like (I don't think he'll mind) by taking his hand and placing it where you'd like it to go. Try a new position (woman on top can control rhythm as well as many other things). Nibble his body. Stroke him erotically (not just in his genital area).

You may find that all he needs is just a gentle nudge in another direction.

Don'T DO IT !!! The guilt and regret you may feel afterwards is not worth the quickie satisfaction of a stranger. Work instead on improving your sex life with your boyfriend. It is ok to fantasize about the other guy while with your boyfriend (just don't tell him) if it will help matters. Besides, you risk throwing away your future (which is worth more than just sex), you risk contracting STD's, including HIV (none of which show up on a person's "good" appearance), and you risk falling hard for this guy and losing your boyfriend. And, in the end, you may discover this guy was only good for sex (maybe..., you hope!) and nothing else. Don't change gyms, just get hold of yourself. Get sexual toys if necessary to help your urge. How do you know that you will not be attracted to a new guy in the new gym and fall for?

i think u might wanna think about whats gonna happen when ur man finds out cuz he's gonna find out

You seriously need to think about it.. or just end the relationship with your boyfriend that would be morally right.. you are willing to throw away a relationship over getting laid by some guy you do not know??.. sounds selfish and quite disgusting.. maybe the sex is awful with your man because he has someone else in mind.. have you thought about that?.. what you should do is present this to your man and tell him how you feel.. everything you discribed from the awful sex down to your wandering eye.. and from there you both can come to a conclusion and solve the issue.. if you lay down with his man how do you know he will feel any passion for you?.. how do you not know he will see you as a one night stand good by mam?.. best bet is to end it with your man and be free..

One thing I can tell you is be careful.. one night of hot passion can cost you a life time of something you can't get rid of..

    If you love your boyfriend, you would not do anything to hurt his feelings.  Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about your relationship.  I hope you are going to get to the bottom of this problem.  If he tells you he does not love you anymore, then it's time to move on.

   Take care.

Hi Blond, I'm very happy that you're reconsidering your decision. I don't know if you've heard about Dr. Laura Schlessinger. She is a Psychotherapist and a Psychologist. She has written several books about relationships. One of them is Proper Caring and Feeding of Husbands. This will really help you in dealing with your boyfriend. Her website is drlaura.com I hope you'll find real happiness.