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Contacting an old friend / flame

14 years ago I had a very special friendship with a man who meant a lot to me.  circumstances at the time prevented our friendship from developing further and we lost touch.

I often think of this man and have continued to do so since our last meeting 13 years ago.  We were grabbing time together at an off chance (and what turned out to be our last) meeting and I had to leave quickly which meant that we never got chance to say a proper goodbye and this has bothered me ever since.  I still often wonder if he is ok.

I believe that I may have recently been fortunate enough to have traced him, but cannot be sure.  I believe that I have both his address and phone number and I am keen to make contact again.  I'm just not sure how to go about this because I am not 100% sure that it is the correct person.  I didn't know whether to call and enquire if it is the right person or to write a letter explaining who i am trying to trace and contact number on the letter.

I would appreciate everyone's thoughts and ideas on this.

C


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
It's a delicate situation and you should handle it acordingly (but go for it !).  Assuming that it's the one, are you sure he felt (and still feeling) the way you feel ?  Are you sure he is available ? (He might be married now and you might embarrase him).  No offence please, but if I felt towards someone the way you feel about him I wouldn't let her go (I would go to the end of the world to find her !) so the whole situation is a bit strange.
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Awwwwwwwwww, go ahead and call that number.........If it's not the correct number, just say sorry.............. 


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No offence taken at all.  I'll explain a bit more... the last time I saw this man (on the last unplanned meeting) he was in a relationship with somebody else who was expecting his child.  Please be assured we started a very deep conversation (nothing physical at all) at which point I had to leave quickly so the conversation never got finished.  I later heard that he got married and moved away and for that very reason never contemplated contacting him.  I since have information that suggests that he has returned to the area alone and lives alone.

I fully agree with your thought about not letting someone go if you felt that way; does this mean that I shoudn't try to contact him?

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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
No, you should go but you'll have to be very sensetive + smart + carefull  it's a very delicate situation and I don't want you to be hurt (in fact I wish I could read that it was a "happy end story".... = they met, fell in love and live happily together ever since then.....).
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There is nothing wrong if you would call. You don't have to reveal your feelings; keep it formal and ask the necessary questions. If you find that he is the person you are looking for you can take it from there. A phone call allows instant response whereas a letter could be forgotten or discarded. I hope you are successful in your search.


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