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Contact with biological father

My biological father recently contacted me for the first time. He now expects me to welcome him into my life. I can't tell my mother and don't know what to do.


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He never assumed the responsibilities of being your father. Once you accept that you can agree to meet him with no obligation on your part. You do not have to welcome into your life since you are now an adult and have every right to either accept or reject. You also do not have to tell your mother. That he initiated this meeting and not you indicates some feelings of guilt on his part. It might not be an easy meeting for you so I wish you all the best and the ability to deal with it intelligently. Remember that you have the right to either close the door or leave it open, as you wish.
Posted 2008-03-04T19:56:30Z
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Children are God's gift to the world... 

If you want to forge a relationship with your biological father, I think now's as good a time as any to meet up with him. If you're not interested in meeting with him, don't. You should never feel pressured to do something that you are not comfortable with, especially not from someone who has not ever been in your life.
Posted 2008-03-08T09:41:23Z
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People make mistakes and deserve chances, as your father and coming forward he is admitting having done wrong, give him a chance at your own comfort zone, as for your mother she will need to accept it he is your father! Around or not that will never change. Good luck
Posted 2008-03-25T05:02:47Z
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A father might not have the strength to take the contact with his children even if his feels sick worried everyday how they are doing. Especially how fathers are treated in the US. If your father have contacted you and it feels right go for it...you might not know how much he has suffered not being there for you...
Posted 2008-06-23T20:25:48Z
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Laughing Hi yeah I think that if you want a relationship with him then go for it. And if you want to have some one there with you then tell your mother but if you think that  you can do it by your self then go for it. See I'm still trying to find my real father cause he left when i was born so i never got to know him. But if you think that your ready then I say do and that means getting hurt cause you never know if you or he wants a relationship with each other so its worth a shot and see how it goes. Good luck with what ever you decide to do. I'll pray for you.
Posted 2008-09-23T22:11:46Z
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