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Confused? we know we did wrong but now what ?

i have a friend and we got intimate and now he doesn't call or anything i've tried but he doesn't answer my calls, he's actually my boss, and i am married and he's got a girlfriend what to do? and he's 49 and i am 33 yikes

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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

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Hi,


Don't be mad at me but I'll dare saying that it is actually good for you !.  Let me, please, examine the facts, analyse it and draw the necessary conclusions: 
1.  You are married, he is not. 
2.  He is much older than (16 years) you.
3.  He is your boss. 
4.  Between your lines it is obvious you fell in deep love
    with him and you want this relation to continue. 
5.  He has a girlfriend (not married but still committed). 
6.  His behaviour tells only one thing: "That was a short
    affair, I dont want to do it again.... better forget about
    it and don't mention it".  He doesn't want to hurt you 
    so he is not saying it, loud and clear, but that's exactly 
    what he says by his avoidance.
Sooner or late you (both) would be caught and you can guess what it means....  So, actually you are (in a sense) very "lucky" that by his reaction he saves you from that embarassment..... The best thing you can do is go out of that short affair, don't mention anything about it....
Above all check carefully what causes you to be unfaithful to your husband.... either attend to it (fix what needs attention) or split and find your true love.   I hope you are not too mad at me, I have to stick to the truth.....
Best regards,
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hanitaa
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so you are saying to love is wrong? well I dont think so. I think intimacy and sex is a form of expressing love.

the fact many parts of this world still think we belong in pairs, have to shut down great energies and live like mice...? no thank you. I prefer opening up my life to free love. mine and evryone else's around me.

raise your head, beautifull woman. rejoice yourself and your inner smile. the one you have on when no one is looking...
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Listen to Oron. That's exactly the situation. Don't keep calling, he has your number.
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I think you don't need to expect anything from him..Just forget whatever the wrong thing happened to the both of you and go on with your life..:)
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you dont say if you regret what happened.

if you do, try to get a letter to him or send him a txt saying, what happened between you was a mistake and you would like to put things behind you and move on while staying friends.

If you dont regret what happened you have to consider wether or not you are happy in you're marriage. I'd stop calling him and see where it goes from there. if he contacts you you can both decide where to go from there. If not, at least you know where you stand.

Good luck, hope this helps Smile
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Thefiremommy
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You dont say how you feel about your friend, you seemingly are more concerned about the friendship rather than a relationship.  The fact that you called him lets him know that you are still want to be friends and leave it at that.  As mentioned he has your number and will call if he wants to.  However, having been in a similar situation many many years ago when