I am engaged to a man, I am unsure he is the right person for me. He loves me unconditional, He is not the romantic type, he doesn't like to be with large groups of friends. I Love him just as much. but I don't know if that is enough. I am confused. Were miserable when were not together I just need some advice. Am I expecting to much
Well, you have an obvious problem here. Is the strength of your love greater than his important personal differences with you? Clearly, you are most uncertain about his suitability, and that must be a very strong warning to you. I don't know how long you have known him, but it's very important that neither of you rush into any long-term committed relationship such as marriage until you are quite certain that you can tolerate the differences.
For sure, the first bloom of love, lust and passion will wear off quite soon, and you will he left with what's left. Including all his shortcomings, which already concern you. How would you feel about him not being romantic to you in 20 years time, for instance? Basically, people don't change just because they're in an important relationship. What you see now is what you'll get forever.
So, listen to your common sense, not your heart. Look into the future carefully.
YES! Do you know what is to blame for most divorces? Movies and Country Music!!! Thats not what it's really like. My husband drives me crazy with what he doesn't say, he not romantic at all....On our wedding night i went into the bedroom first, lit a candle and put on some lingerie for the first time....sure when he walked in he smiled and told me i look pretty, then he blew the candle out, got into bed and talked and cuddled for 45 minutes before making love, almost falling asleep a few tmes. I think some of em just dont have it in them. There are few women, FEW, who have a good man and a romantic sensitive man....the others either have what we have, or they are always wondering where they are because they are cheats and/or drunks. If you have a good man, that you love and trust, marry him and when you think of how you wish he would do or say something, there is plenty of time for that...we just have to hold on tighter to the few moments we get , but at least they are real!
Love is the battery of life....
Hi,
From what you are saying, you know that he loves you, he shows that he loves you but not in traditional romantic ways, and he doesn't like large groups of friends.
And you love him.
So I'm not sure what the issue is here. Is it that you can't accept him for who he is? Is it that you haven't known each other long?
Why not see where this leads for a while since you love him. You might be surprised
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