Confuse relationship

ok i've been dating this guy for 2 years. our relationship is great and i can't believe that i would find someone who will really love me with all his heart..he sacrificed a lot for me and whenever i ask him for something, he always do it no questions ask. it wasn't til 2 days ago when i started getting confused. i told him that i would go to the mall with my friend. he was fine with it until that afternoon. he got mad at me coz he found out that i was alone waiting for the bus and he was just worried about me. he said that he doesn't like it when i'm alone. then the fight got pretty worse to the point where he said that he doesn't want me to go out anymore because he's just gonna be worried to me the whole day. he apologized to me later that day and he explained to me that the only reason why he said that is because he's worried about me knowing that i was alone. in other words, he just wants me to be safe. i told him that i appreciate all the caring but controlling someone is beyond the limit. he apologized to me again and promised me that he's never do it again and he'll never hurt me in any way. i forgave him but now, i'm confused. can someone help me? i don't know if i still wanna be with him. i was thinking alone yesterday and i told myself that i wanna be with someone who can't even think about controlling me in the first place coz he knows that it will hurt me. on the other hand, i thought that the only reason why he did it is because he was worried about me. he even told me that he loves me so much and he don't want to lose me. but like i said, im confused. what will i do?


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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
No offence please, but you exaggerate.... that is a relatively small / minor / minute event and started just cause he was worried about your safety.....  OK you didn't like the way he was trying to contril you but that is not a real "crime".....  Better examine it in the right proportions !.  Discuss it with him, tell him what bothered you and how you felt about it and use that event to build mechanisms that will enable you to overcome "fights" in the future.  Never leave a good partner for minor reasons.   Good partners are relatively scares.....
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We're gonna be here awhile, so we might as well turn on some tunes !!

Talk to him.  Tell him that you have to be responsible for yourself when you are not with him and that you will do everything to be safe.  And then do that.  Avoid situations that make you unsafe.  Be Smart. 

The red flag for me is when he told you that he didn't want you to go out anymore because he would just worry.  If all it is is worry, then that's fine, but if it is more than that like he doesn't trust you or whatever, then that is another thing entirely. 

Sit him down.  Tell him you are a Big Girl and that there are going to be times that you are alone.  Let him know he can trust you.  Then be sure that when you do go out alone, do whatever you need to to be safe.  If that means carrying mace or whatever, then that's what you do. 

Take Care and be safe.
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He should be worried, but not to the point of getting into an argument.  First of all, he thought you was with a friend and from what I read, you were not.  He could have a trust issue because you did something different than you told him originally and he is bringing something else up and not what’s really on his mind.   You should let him know how you feel about controlling moments and then try and solve the problem.  My thought is he believes that you are up to something else.  Maybe this is a step in your relationship where you and he will need to work more on communications.

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What you meet in your dreams you can achieve in reality:for in the Reality is everything possible.

Hi girlie88

Is there any Princ yet?

I would like so much meeting a nice guy taking care of me,asking himself where i am,what i'm doing,do i have any friends, what are my thoughts.....

See,i spend my time by my computer ,looking for new projects and surfing new sites,and believe me i came across to a virtual Love,and i feel his sympathy,goodnees,intelligence and i know he felt in love with me.Imagine now,he and me meeting one wonderful day in real,he keeps my hand,gives me a kiss and story begins......

And ,do you know what i would have expected of him?To stay by me so i never have been alone,maybe i am scared of somethng or somebody,maybe i met  a lot of evil people,/you didn't/,maybe i run away of all bad,ugly words i heard.....I hope you don't think i am crazy for telling this.I hope you don't think there is something wrong with your guy for his love and worry about you!

Maybe you need to read a story about a lonely man who lost his Darling even did everything to save herGreen Love  

Thank you,

greeting from hestija

 

 

 
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