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I am a male in my mid 40 s my wife is the same age over the last couple of years she rejects me alot. Is it over ?


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Sound like it's time to put some sparks in your relationship.  Now is the moment to make a decision to place the relationship between you and your love at the top of the priority list. The first step is to firmly make that decision that being a couple is the focus. Take her to a romantic dinner for two and light those candles.  Not only will your partner appreciate your thoughtfulness, the time will give you two a chance to talk and reestablish your connection. Nothing isn't as important as actually making the time to do something just for the two of you to rekendle your relationship.  I would try this first and if you don't reestablish your connections, then you should seek marriage couseling. 

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Try asking her. She might surprise you


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
Romeo and Betty Poole gave you excellent answers (dredited each with 2 thumbs up), I would like to add that very friquently if reflects some problem in your relations or some other problem.  In that case sparks won't help....  better discuss it with her (open and deep) and try to find out what is the real reason (you'll have to be smart and sensetive).  Here is a short list of potential reasons (no offence, please):
1.  Health problems. 
2.  No sex drive.
3.  Some other major problem.
4.  Reflecting bad realtions. 
5.  Bad / poor sex.
6.  Fatigue.
7.  Worried. 
Best regards,


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Live simply, love generously and  care deeply.

 

Hi Steve68,

     I fully agree with OronD, Betty Poole and Romeo about their inputs.  I gave them two thumbs up.  Do you remember upsetting her about something?  Are you still loving, caring and romantic towards her?  Are you attentive to her needs, compliments her with what she does at home  for you and the family  and also appreciates her sensuality?  Are you maintaining your nice body build and not neglecting your physical appearance? not gaining too much weight especially around the stomach area?  Do you have hobbies that you both enjoy together?  Have you had vacation lately just the two of you?  A  one week cruise would be perfect, there are lots of fun things in a cruise.

     Try to do more soul-searching and see if some of these will help.  I certainly hope you will be able to save this marriage.  There are always ups and downs in life and marriages.  This is just one of the downs.  You are going to overcome this.

    Well, you take care and keep us posted.

Rina

 


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Is she rejecting you only in bed or is it a feeling you get from her behavior?

In order to get what you want you are going to need to put some effort in it. Show her it is not only sex you are looking for. Surprise her, cook for her , take her out for a picnic, take her back to the place were you once dated. Don't think negative, after these activities tell her you just want to hug her with no sex at all. It will surprise her but it will show her your intentions are true. Give her time till she will get the spark back and you two will enjoy it again. If its not helping at all and you still feel as if anything you do won't change her, then you will have to raise a discussion about it with her but only after you feel you have done anything you can.   


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