This is not an unusual relationship dynamic. As stated well by Daniel, there are some ego issues at play here, along with fear, resistance, and a good dose of confusion. A counselor can help, but only if both parties are willing to participate. You must always remember to be respectful of others and of yourself. You need to resist the temptation of laying blame on him and of trying to 'fix' him. This will not happen. Counseling for you alone would be a huge benefit too, because you will likely continue in your confused ways when you come to your next relationship, whether it be social or business. I hope this helps, J