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Im in the postion where my bestfriend has fallen in total love with me. Its not the "oh that boy loves me". Its like hes been in love with me for three years and i cant see him as more than just that, my bestfriend. We dated a long time ago, before we became "bestfriends". And i liked him alot. But things happened and it didnt work out. But since then we've become closer. And i love him. I Completly adore this boy. And sometimes i ask myself that question if i really am in love with him and just cant admit it to myself, or what my problem is. He told me three days ago that he can no longer be my friend because being my friend was him setting his hopes high knowing they would just come crashing back down. My other close friend agree that i need to just let it go and let him finally get over me but something tells me i shouldnt let this one slip away. What do i do?!


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Though both of you are best friends, you need time to think whether both of you want the relationship to grow more than a friendship. Talk to him and ask to give you some time to think over the matter. May be he is infatuated or may be you are running away from the truth. Time will give you the answer.



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One thing for sure this is complicated, but their is a solution.  First you need to ask yourself is your love for this person really beyond just you all being best friends?  Second can you see yourself in a totally different relationship with this person? Lastly, are you thinking with your heart or your brain?  Really dig deep and answer these questions because he deserves to be happy as well as you.  Most good, loving, and stable relationships are built from friendships, but if you decide to pursue this and it does not work out I don't think your friendship would be able to sustain the hurt that might be caused.  Good luck in your decision!


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its ok to be friends and have feelings but hes telling you he doesnt want anymore friendship then he really isnt your friend at all


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