Completely confused

I think that if you are going through a divorce right now, you might need some time just to be alone, to figure out what you want, and to be yourself, without another man.  Having good friends is one thing, but being sexually involved with another person just seems quick.  If you knew that you wanted to be with him and that he was the one, then I would say go for it.  But, it sounds like you aren't sure what you want, which is very understandable for someone who is going through a divorce.  Enjoy being with girl friends and be yourself.  Give yourself some time to recover and become undamaged.  Good luck.

I think divorce is hard enough in the beginning. Getting involved with another man may only further complicate your situation. Maybe you should take it easy with the dating for a little while. Once things have settled down from the divorce, maybe you can see where you and your friend of 13 years stand. But as for now, any feelings you may have might only be temporary because when one goes through a hard time, he/she looks for someone to lean on. Maybe that's why things don't seem so great with your friend now. Take some time off, spending quality time for yourself and on yourself. I hope this helps.