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Chronic Illness =No Sex

After 30 years of happy marriage and strong sex, my wife became chronically ill. Four years later, good sex has become zero sex. I don't like strip clubs-help? Should I get out of the marriage? Should I find another woman, and have affairs?


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Remember your marriage vows, in sickness and in health. A thirty year marriage to a woman who it seems that you loved is a terrible thing to lose over sex. Try masturbation.


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Please don't get mad at me.  After 30 years of good marriage and good sex you consider leaving here for zero sex (and good reason for it) ?  that's more than unfair.  Was she your "sex tool" (no offence please) and now that the tool is "broken" you sluff it ?.....  No ways.  The easiest way to deal with a problem is to run away..... Better be smart and find the right solution (even if it's hard and takes a long time).  Be considerative, be a real partner, she needs your love and understanding.....  together with her you'll find a solution(s).  Support her.  You owe her for the last 30 good years that she gave you.  Don't be selfish.  Don't loose your moral / values.  The same can easily happnd to you.......  
Sorry, I have to give you a true answer, please don't be mad at me (I only mean to help you).

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Thanks Oron for saying the things I wanted to say.


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you arsehole, you don't deserve a good woman like that. you should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking of sex when she is so ill. you jerkwad


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To begin with what do you consider "chronicall ill"? Has good sex become "Zero Sex" or restricted sex caused by the after affects of an illness? As a wife of 30 plus years who has survived cancer but has been left with "chronic" problems that affect "when" sex is or is not an option I will tell you that your "EGO" appears to be the larger problem. Sounds more like she married for Love and you my dear man married for sex. Her being unable does not tell me she has stopped loving you, and I am sure that she deserves the same love and respect from you now that she did 30 years ago. Cheating is cheating rather that be a by the hour hotel, and comfortable friend from the past or cybersex. Have a little self respect if you can find any and give her the love and respect she deserves!!!!!!! 


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