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Am I Cheating?

I have a really bad habit of wanting to know what is going on with my exs. My current boyfriend caught me googleing on my exs. He got really upset. No, I don't want them back. I just want to know. Am I cheating?


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I don't think it's cheating.  I still keep in touch with ex-girlfriends from long ago.  There is no romance between us, but we are friends.  I could understand a new girlfriend being jealous of my old exs if they were insecure about the relationship.  Maybe this is the problem, your boyfriend is insecure with your relationship.

If you don't talk to the exs or even write to them, satisfying your curiosity about what has happened to them is normal.  Find out why your boyfriend is insecure, and help him see that he can trust you.  Maybe you give off some signals that he's replaceable.  Or maybe you were already in a relationship when you two met, and he thinks that could happen again.  Maybe it's happened to him before that someone cheated on him and he's afraid it will happen again.

Posted 2008-04-18T05:30:18Z
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Posted 2008-04-19T08:27:49Z
 
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Only you know what's in your heart (how you're feeling about them) to know if you are cheating.  At the very least you are being  nosy.  Why are you so interested if "they" are ex's? It sounds like you are not actually talking to them but snooping on them.  If it's really over let it go and move on.

Posted 2008-04-20T20:59:26Z
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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

no,you're just curious!

Posted 2008-04-21T13:36:18Z
 

No you are not cheating but what you are doing is creating a trust barrier between you and your current boyfriend.  Your boyfriend believes and trusts that you are only interested in him.  By researching your ex's, what you are telling him is that you still have interest in your ex's.  You may not want them back but you have definately not moved on from them.  You need to discover the reason behind your googling.  Are you doing it just b/c you are curious or because you are thinking about them and want to keep up with what they are doing?  Switch shoes with your boyfriend for a minute, how would you feel if you caught him viewing his ex's myspace page or facebook profile?  It is not cheating but it is definately a trust issue.  In his mind he is probably wondering what lenghts you will go to in order to keep tabs on your ex's.  Re-evaluate yourself and why you are doing it and if it is worth the termoil it is causeing your current relationship.

Posted 2008-04-22T11:24:25Z
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No you are not cheating, but you have made you boyfriend feel insecure. There is a reason why people want to keep in touch with exs. maybe he feels like you are still intrested in your exs.

Posted 2008-04-22T13:51:06Z
 
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no i think you r just a caring person that cares about most people including your exs i still talk to my exs and make sure there okay so just explain why you do wat you do

Posted 2008-04-24T02:28:19Z
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I dont think you are  but I would try to forget him,

Posted 2009-06-25T15:44:57Z

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