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Cheating husband

I know for a fact that my husband is cheating on me but he keeps telling me that it's all in my head even after I have given proof that I know. I even caught him when the other women sent him a text message. I am currently 5 months pregnant with his child and I love this man to death, even if he is a piece of scum. What should I do?


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,


I felt very sorry reading your notes.  You face a real tough problem.  On one hand you "love him to death" and on the other hand you know he is "a piece of scum"......  and on top of it you are pregnant......  Having said that I believe you won't even consider leaving him..... so the best you can do is discuss it with him.  Find a nice intimate place (that he likes) prepare exactly how and what you are going to say...... start by telling him that you love him, that you are proud to carry his baby, and that you want your relations to flourish..... but there is one thing that drives you crazy and you would appreciate it very much if he can assist you to feel better and mores secure.  Now be specific, tell him how it hurts you and how you feel about at.....  add that good realtions are based on 4 pillars: Trust + Openess + Communications + Respect and you need to strengthen the pillar of "trust" in your relations.....  Choose smart and sensetive words, don't let him feel thretned in any way..... and talk from your inner truth and integrity.
Best regards,

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Life is lessons in love. No regrets. 

You are definitely in a tough situation. I think you should seek out individual counseling. I think you need to talk to a professional to figure out what you want to do, how you can approach this situation with your husband, and whether it's worth staying in a marriage where your husband is unfaithful. Maybe marriage counseling might benefit you as well.


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I've been in the same exact boat as you, i did find out he was cheating and instant messaging other ladies. it did hurt, especially to find out on my own. If i were you, I would give him another chance and if he does it again leave him if not he's always going to be like this, he'll never change. but i know its hard especially if your pregnant with his baby. Im sorry i hope things get better.


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Hello, I´m sorry about your relationship, I don´t know what I should do in your case, but maybe I would try harder in the comunication, and have a pact with him in case he´ll do it again.

In that case maybe I wouldn´t forget him now and much less later.. This is about you, if you can live with that its ok but if you think sooner or later it will ruin your life...maybe you should leave him.

If you don´t forgive him now, someday you will be doing the same that he does; nobody wants that kind of relationship...it is supposed to be couple, partners.. if you dont have that, you will find it in someone else.

Right now you are young... what it will be when you are 60?? do you see both of you together???

thats the point... sharing life with someone that is special for you.....

Goog luck!!! Regards--


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I've seen it a hundred times.

Sorry about that.

Tell him if he doesn't stop it, you will divorce him and take him for everything he has, and mean it.


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