Cheating: Emotional or Physical?

as a wife for 20 years,and never divorced  ,I  personally think cheating is cheating earthier way you look at it ,emotionally or physical. If he is looking or talking to her there is something definitely  wrong.and i would never put up with that under no condition.  when  your  involved with a guy they should be just for you and no one else. thats what marriage  is  all  about.if you  want to be with  other  women  then  you  should  be  single. thats just my  views.

Hi Jules,

   I agree with lovelylady's viewpoint.  A marriage should be treated as a sacred and exclusive union, in body, heart and mind.  A lot of times, our society tend to be lax, liberal and loose.  People tend to rationalize cheating by saying that they don't feel the same way anymore toward the person they are with so they think  it is perfectly OK to do whatever feels good regardless of who would get hurt. 

     If the man's attention and thoughts are with someone else, then it is better just to leave  the marriage, let him enjoy his life, that way one could have peace of mind.

Guys are hard-wired to "cheat" emotionally, that's how the planet got populated before society got regulated en masse by the Catholic Church. It's a fact of evolution, and to deny it exists is futile. However, the church long ago recognized that intent alone is not enough to act against, and this tenet has been since handed down into law within Christian societies such as the U.S. In short, our laws are based upon Church rules and ethics. So, acts mitigated by intent is the standard we must judge by, otherwise we cannot perceive fact from fiction. Actual physical cheating cannot be mitigated or bargained down, but just thinking about it is everybody's right, and part of our ancestry. Hope that helps, or were you just curious?!

Emotional cheating is worst then physical. Women emotionally cheat everyday and refuse to acknowledge it. They treat it like a white collar crime and think its nothing. When in fact, if they caught their man doing the same thing, they would be hurt the same.

I have been married for almost a year and have been dealing with an issue similar to this question. For me personally, I think that cheating either way is unforgivable. I believe that if you have those tendencies and temptations, then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. There is something in your mind from the get go telling your that something is wrong if you feel the urge to be with somebody on an emotional or on a physical level, acting on the temptation is a subconcious reaction that you are in the wrong relationship.

emotional cheating is worse because there are actual feelings that connect you to that individual. As a male, males can be physically involved and not connect it with emotions. Its just a lust of the body, not the heart.

i believe that emotional  is worse because if he has sex with some 1 just had sex with her she or he is a 1 night stand but to put your heart in to it in to some 1 other then the one u with thats worse it not only hurts more its just now he or she is telling some one else there goals there dreams there good and bads there no longer feel that some thing special they should and by then u know its over

I feel that both are offensive and destroy any relationship weather its a serious or beginner relationship in any way its called cheating