i learned a long time ago that the only way you will get hurt is if you let  ( allow)someone to hurt you. for whatever reason you may have at the time i found that i was the reason that i got hurt.  also i feel that in the big picture i see myself as one messed up puppy. i stopped expecting people to do as i do long ago for that reason. just because i felt that the right thing should ( and would ) allways prevail - dosent make that the truth. people -the legal system - family blah blah.....