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I know the answer for this, but I need someone else's opinion besides my friends.  I was with this guy for 4 years, head over heels in love, wanted to marry him..the whole works.  We were having difficulties and I noticed he was acting "strange", and we broke up in the second week of December of 2006. I thought we told each other everything. In January of 2007, I came to find out he had a Myspace page, where he was requesting tons of girls to be his friends, who he didnt know, since October of 2006.  Come the 2nd week of February he was trying to get back with me.  During the time we were trying to reconcile, I get a call from a girl stating that she has been with him since the 3rd of Jan. of '07 and "moved in" with him Jan. 14th.  Now we saw each other twice during that time, and I knew nothing of him seeing someone else. SO he claimed that he was not seeing her when he was seeing me, but she said that he was contacting her on Myspace since November of 2006. So I left it alone for months, but he would still contact me once in a while.  And I even had thoughts about getting back with him, and he would  always tell me how much he missed me and how he wanted to be with me and what not. I was so STUPID.  He would always tell me that we will be together again. Here is where everything gets CRAZY.  His girlfriend contacts me last month (April '08) and tells me that she is pregnant.  He tells me that she is not having the baby, and she is crazy and he is going to leave her, come to find out he still stayed with her, and which she kept harassing me.  Then last week he came to find out that she was allegedly speaking to someone else, and says he is really going to leave her this time, he's still with her btw.  He comes to me saying that he wants us to have a friendship and he needs me in his life, and tells me he loves me over and over and he won't leave me alone. Confusing the hell out of me....Telling me how he wants to be with me, but can't be with me how he wants to be with me because he has "luggage" with her I assume. But yet he is still with her.  Telling me that I am the only person he could talk too, when I made it clear that we cannot have a relationship as friends.   Keep in mind I love/ed this person, but I know I don't need him in my life. Let me paint this picture for you. When I was with him I was going to school to be a Speech Therapist.  He was a nobody, and through the years I loved him and fought for him to become somebody, in which he did, he got a job with the airlines, got a car etc, and thats when things started getting rough. Now Im not going to paint a picture like I'm perfect because I'm not. But I am now a Speech Therapist, 24 , and Independant in all areas, no kids or anything. Now the girl he is with has a son who does not live with her, and she depends on him for a place to live, and he is supposedly helping her get her life together, thats none of my business.  Now I know I don't need this in my life, I am extremley hurt and heart broken by all of this but how do I get him out of my life?  I just need advice on how to over come this, Please help!

 

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Its never too late to ask.

First, you are not as confused as you claim, the light came on in the hallway a long time ago and you are having a pity party with no one in attendance but yourself. Second, you don't need a man in your life to be whole, so it would appear there may be self esteem issues,  here. Third, to quote a well known personality, "You can't fix what you won't admit to." He's using you. Wake up and smell the funk. Even by your own admittance, your friends have told you. But you could write this website or a gazillion others for so called advice but you like it; the more someone pays attention to your dilemma, the better you feel. Get over it kiddo. Find some thing else to do beside B & M.


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i always try to help those who need good adviceSmile

let him go it seems to me if he really loved or cared for you he would have never strung you along.. i know its hard at first but in the end its best to get on with your life and find someone whom loves you for you


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