Boyfriend questions, I really hope someone knows how to help me!

As painful as it might sound I think you already know that you care and think about him a lot more than he does of you.  Perhaps you are hanging on to the hurt you experienced in high school when your best friend "stole" him and now, on some unconscious level, you are hanging onto him to prove that you can keep when she didn't.  Regardless of the reasons you are staying in this relationship it's clear he isn't treating you the way you deserve and you can do better.  When someone makes plans with other people knowing you're home alone, takes you for granted or laughs at/ignores things you say to show he doesn't care then even being alone is better than this.  At this young age you shouldn't be wrapped up in petty jealousies or games.  Ask yourself the hard questions: why are you really with him?  Don't just answer because you love him.  Ask what in yourself is lacking, how can you improve that shortcoming and why do you feel you want to get those things from a guy, especially this one who doesn't seem to care much about your feelings in the way you need them addressed.  The hardest thing will be to walk away from him while you feel so conflicted but as someone with nearly three times the relationship experience as you I can strongly advise you to use the next few months to regroup, to better yourself and to use your time out of the country to refresh your perspective.  Then come back more mature and ready to find someone who truly meets your needs.  It will take all your energy and willpower to do this but one day you will look back and see it was the healthiest thing you ever did for yourself.  Best of luck!

Hi,

   I am inclined to say that this man does not love you because he does not show it in his actions.  He only is available because of the sex he's getting from you.  I think that you should forget all about this man.  His friends are more important to him than you.  You are the one showing love to him and thinking  more about him.  If I were you, I will leave him alone, let him enjoy his friends, go about your own business and hopefully you'll meet a nice man who will reciprocate your love.  A successful and happy relationship is a give and take one.  It seems that you're the only one giving.

    Sorry about my honesty.  I don't want to sugar-coat my response.  Meanwhile I wish you luck and I hope you'll find happiness with someone else.

I would stop considering him my BF immediately , his actions show you he is not interested in being the man in your life .  He is merely using you till something better in his eyes comes along .  Seems to me all you have is a sexual relationship with him .  When a man loves a woman he treats her with kindness , love and respect , this man gives you none of these .  Loving someone should not have all this drama and pain . Your partner in life should not be the source of your pain and sorrow .  You need to end this with him and stop blocking yourself from meeting Mr. Right , who will actually love , cherish and respect you . All the things you are not getting from this man .