I have a friend and he drinks.Has been for many years.He has children all of whom are adults and married.He is a nice person in general(putting aside all his anger management issues)and a very active member when it comes to helping those around him all except his family.He believes that his children do not care for him and does not trust them in anyway(even though they have made many prominent sacrifices for his happiness).He is also a victim of self-pity.I know abuse of alcohol comes with its fair share of mental disorders (mainly depression) but what i cannot figure out is how to approach him as he tends to twist everything we say to him into something negative. (Psychiatric help is not an option as he will never approve of it and will forever cut off all forms of relationship with the suggester)Please help!?!?
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Hi, You can only do so much. If that person does not welcome any help or suggestion, leave him alone. You can make a horse go to the river to drink, but you cannot force him to drink. It's time to deal with your own life issues.
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I would say that there are only two things that can be done for such a person as described.
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DB Lady's right. A person can only be rehabilitated if he/she chooses to. Forcing somebody won't do anything. I think a good way of helping him would be to show that you care. Of course, telling him that at the rate he's going, he just might end up killing himself can work as well. That ought to snap him out of it.
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Sounds like your friend could be the poster child for alcoholism.Problem is,until your friend admits he has a problem there is very little anyone can do for him.Trust e I know whereof I speak.I wasted so much of my adult life mired in drunkeness.It ain't a fun place to be but believe me,this person HAS GOT TO ADMIT DEFEAT before he can even help himself.
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