Alcohol problem of spouse

This is a red flag. Does he realize he has a problem? If he doesn't accept that there's a problem, the first thing he needs to do is talk to someone. He needs to get help before your relationship goes any further, otherwise, your relationship is doomed. Have him look over Do You Have an Alcohol or Drug Problem?.

This is something to be worried about. You can try and make him understand how harmful it is to him but I'm afraid the real way to solve the problem is going into rehab. That's assuming he has a real problem.

I would try and show him where alcohol interferes with his life and how it affects it and then convince him that rehab can help him gain control of his life.

The bottom line is if he doesn't want to quite no one can force him. 

Wow...if I had the answer for this question I would be very wealthy!  The truth is that if he has an alcohol problem, you can't help him.  I agree with the other comments in that you can point out the issues it causes, you can suggest rehab, and that may even work for awhile.  But the bottom line is an addict is an addict, is an addict.  The sooner you realize that you are not the solution to the problem the better off you are.  If you are truly interested in figuring this out, I highly reccomend the book, Co-dependant No More by Melody Beattie.  It is written in laymans terms by a former addict, who through rehab and a desire to help others stop using, became a co-dependant herself.  I used to be married to an alcoholic and at 1st, at my insistance he did stop, but he continually fell off the wagon.  The issues became worse with time and like you I thought it was up to me to "help" him.  By doing that, I took on the responsibility of his problem.  He didn't have to bother with that since I was doing all the work!  I read this book and came to understand my role as his enabler very quickly and although he didn't change, (and still hasn't) I did.  Make no mistake; an "unhealthy" person will cause you to become unhealthy.  It's hard to understand until you've been there but I promise you this is the truth.  You may want to reconsider the future husband part...or you may be looking at your soon to be ex-husband.  Good luck!

When someone finds the answer to this, let me know. My husband is a heavy drinker (10-14 beers every night), but it is something that I cannot change.  He is self-employed, a hard worker.  He works all day and then comes home and does all the work around the house (building things, remodeling the house, outside work). Unfortunately I can't use the "it is interfering with your work, hobbies, etc, because it doesn't. He admits that he is an alcoholic, but I dont think he will ever stop. There have been a few times where he has had so much to drink that he has passed out and gotten hurt which makes him stop for a few days..but then he is right back to it.