Let me tell you this i dont have to pretend when it comes to my son...I dont sugar coat nothing but just to let you know i do my job as his mother and u nor any one else can judge me...I have been a single parent for almost 17 years raising my son alone that is mentally disabled and never will he live home because i  will have to care for him the rest of my life..Not you not the govrment not his father not my family but  me me me me...So until u know what u r talking bout dont judge me by what you may think.....I ask for help not to be judged and not for smart ass comments from you...Because if it had not been for me he would have been put in a home  somewhere but guess what i ant like some people i didnt give up on my son and never will.... So i dont neglect my son if i did how does his  butt get wiped everyday and bathed twice a day because he cant  do it on his own....So tell me is that pretending.....Think nxt time b4 type because when it comes to my son he is my first priority no mater what u think...And i dont have to pretend for him to know i love him  and for him to love his mother bck.......All the things u said  those are the things my son will never understand not because of me but by the way he was brought in this world....So yes he is the most important thing in my life and i dont have to pretend he is because he is..If this is  delliottg4  this comment is for u....Until u know what u talking bout walk in my shoes...