I obviously don't know the whole story, so please don't think anything I say applies to you.  I don't want to have sex with my husband.  We have A LOT of problems, but the sex was the last thing to go.  I used to have an insatiable sex drive, wanted 2 or 3 times a day, even after we had kids, however, he didn't.  After a while, it became a chore to try to get him to do it.  Pardon my bluntness.  Now he whines how I never want to have sex with him!  Whatever!  But in your case, you might be able to get the romance back.  But I agree that for a woman, (and some men, not being sexist here) it starts long before the date even.  It's about the sharing, talking, and just plain having FUN.  MMMM, fun, haven't had fun in sooooo long.  Anyway, it may take some "behavioral" changes, and may take a couple weeks or months, but if you do the right things, trust me, it will be worth the wait.  All the things that people think are "hokey" like flowers, candy, long walks, romantic restaurants, wow, I WISH my husband would do those things.  Geez, I wish he'd even look my way and talk to me once in a while!  Now I'm at the point where it just doesn't matter, even though, maybe, just maybe, if he would try, but he won't, sooooooo.  Try some of those things, find out her favorite stuff, and add those things, trying new things (not sexual at first) as a couple is really something that would make me give it up! lol  But seriously, good luck and hope anything here was of some help!