Romance does not start in the bedroom. It starts with being well groomed with a clean appearance and a clean smell, a loving glance, a caring attitude, being a team player when it comes to taking care of the children and the house work (don't forget the laundry). A gental touch of the hand or a gentle kiss on the neck during the day will go a long way. Don't think that romance starts with the kiss and gentle touch in the evening, it should start first thing in the morning; that way he/she can think about it during the day. It is extremely important to be well groomed on the weekends too. Some people get way too casual on the weekends by not showering and wearing sloppy clothing. If you are wearing a baseball hat on the weekend so you don't have to style your hair or if you are not shaving, most likely nothing is going to happen in the bedroom. Show your spouce that you appreciate and love her/him continuously thoughout every day, not just when you want to get your grove on. It is the little, everyday things that make the difference. Romance starts by caring enough about yourself to be your best for your spouce. So, polish yourself up everyday and gaze into your spouces eyes and express how much love you feel. Do this evryday and you will be surprised because your spouce will want more of you, especially in the evening.