wow, that is just as dramatic as what i am going through. it saddens me that so many people are unhappy in relationships and feel that they are stuck for whatever the reason is. believe me, i feel stuck too. not for the same reasons though. but we dont' get along for alot of the same reasons, LYING!!! i am married to a sociopathic crazy person that has jsut recently showed his true colors. he's been lying to me our entire relationship/short marriage. i am having mine annuled. but we don't have any children together.

what i have learned from experience is that if there is no trust and you have no good times in your every day life, then it's time to call it quits. the best thing for the baby is to be around happy relationships. whether you are together or not you need to be happy. believe me. i ended my awful relationship w/ my sons father b/c of similar circumstances but also adding his drug relapse. as soon as i kicked him out and got happy again in my OWN life for my son, my son showed development in leaps and bounds. so for the baby's sake, if you dont' get along and are fighting and bickering all the time, you need to seperate and form your own bond w/ the baby. at first in the newborn months, the baby will need to be w/ mama the majority of the time. but later in his first year and after that , you will be amazed at the bonding you can have w/ just you and your child. i would suggest that if you do split, in the baby's first 9 mos that most of the time you spend w/ the child is just visiting the child at the mothers' house. overnight visits actually aren't recommended until the baby's over 2. but my son did fine at a year and a half for over nights.

well, good luck and God bless! better days lie ahead. and God doesn't put anything in your way that He knows you can't handle. this i know to be true!