Affiar + pregnancy + divorce = happy relationship and happy family???

Yes, you did answer your own question. May-be you just wanted someone to confirm it.

Like it has been said before: if there's no trust, there's no relationship; I personally believe that people should not stay together just because of the kids, even though you might feel it's the right thing to do, a child does not bring respect to the relationship and you / she may just live your / her biterness out on the poor creature; if she has made you feel like crap in all the senses, you want to feel like that for the rest of your life??

Now, if you love her and want to give this a chance, you should sit down and talk with her and see if your idea and her idea of the relationship / family is the same or not.

Hope this helps somewhat.

Good luck!

Right now there are so many what if's this that ect ect only thing for sure is you both might be bringing a child into this world that didnt ask to be here.as soon as that baby comes get a test to see if the baby is yours after that you both have to decide whats best for the baby it really sounds like there is not a chance you will or should stay togeher but you  both need to  be respectful to each other for the babys sake you both sound like your so intent on makeing each other unhappy think less of each other and more on the baby that you both will be a part of for the rest of your lives.Pray and thank the lord your baby has 10 toes 10 fingers and is healthy and happy ther are so many parents who dont get that chance all the best in whatever it is you decide to do but dont think of yourselfs frist as always God Bless

If you don't trust her don't be with her. If you want your baby in your life you can file for your rights as the father but I would get a paternity test .The only thing that will happen is you will be miserable and babies can sense stuff like that and that's not good for the baby to have to grow up in that type of situation. Love your baby because you want to not because its right and be with the babies mother only because you love  her and care for her not because you feel obligated to.

im kinda going through the same thing. my girlfreind did nothing but lie to me. well at least alot. i chalked it up to her fears from her past relationships. but how much does one person take. as much as they can than its done. the baby is the most important part. definately take a test to see if its yours. after that if you 2 actually think it might work out try therapy. you have to make sure shes being honest and sincere with you. not just looking for that paycheck. good luck 

Not all relations are meant to last. We as people tend to always look for good in others, hope, love, faith, rejoicing when were happy and crying when we are saddened. Yet, hope is always around the corner. Sometimes we meet people along the way , we think we love, we do enjoy our time with them but for some reason the relationship ends and we are left asking why????? why me ??? Why now??? These relations give you understanding along the road of life. with time, clarity and wisdom. Your LOVE will come along. be patient and don't fall into her trap of her saying she is pregnant. Is it yours?? If so do the right thing and tell her you will offer support after the paternity test is proven you in fact are the father. I am  sure you have heard the old saying" you can't have your cake and eat it too. she had a husband, she was  unfaithful before her divorce was final. Who is to say she won't cheat on her next relationship

wow, that is just as dramatic as what i am going through. it saddens me that so many people are unhappy in relationships and feel that they are stuck for whatever the reason is. believe me, i feel stuck too. not for the same reasons though. but we dont' get along for alot of the same reasons, LYING!!! i am married to a sociopathic crazy person that has jsut recently showed his true colors. he's been lying to me our entire relationship/short marriage. i am having mine annuled. but we don't have any children together.

what i have learned from experience is that if there is no trust and you have no good times in your every day life, then it's time to call it quits. the best thing for the baby is to be around happy relationships. whether you are together or not you need to be happy. believe me. i ended my awful relationship w/ my sons father b/c of similar circumstances but also adding his drug relapse. as soon as i kicked him out and got happy again in my OWN life for my son, my son showed development in leaps and bounds. so for the baby's sake, if you dont' get along and are fighting and bickering all the time, you need to seperate and form your own bond w/ the baby. at first in the newborn months, the baby will need to be w/ mama the majority of the time. but later in his first year and after that , you will be amazed at the bonding you can have w/ just you and your child. i would suggest that if you do split, in the baby's first 9 mos that most of the time you spend w/ the child is just visiting the child at the mothers' house. overnight visits actually aren't recommended until the baby's over 2. but my son did fine at a year and a half for over nights.

well, good luck and God bless! better days lie ahead. and God doesn't put anything in your way that He knows you can't handle. this i know to be true!

If you find yourself wanting to date other people and questioning the relationship with her then I think you should move on but keep in contact with her and the baby.  Having a kid together is not a good reason to stay together especially if you don't trust her because you will just be unhappy and realize that things are not going to change.

OK- This woman is a joke. Please do yourself a favor and do not be with her. Be the best father you can, but you don't have to be with her also. You deserve the life you described- everyone does. Get them both a card from foulmarkgreetings.com and move on.