Adult Responsibility

She's an adult and living under your roof. Not paying for anything. Disrespecting your home (dirty dishes, trash, curling iron, etc.). Driving a car without insurance her father helped get. Hope the car isn't in your name because you will be responsible too if she has a wreck. Which can lead to personal lawsuits. If she can afford a cell phone for social events. She can pay for insurance. Yes, you can ask her anything. Your flapping the bills for her. If she doesn't like it she can move out. If she has an assoc. degree she knows what responsibility is. Especially if she was holding a job before for 3 years. Sounds like she just wants to have fun at your expense and not be serious about her responsibilities. She maybe playing you for a fool. What are her friends like good or bad influence. You have to be careful now days. Drugs, alcohol, hire for murder plots kid's wanting parents dead. Would she gain anything inheritance, insurance money, property, etc.. No trying to scare you just telling you what I think. Sure she's not depressed.  May God Bless You  

1. I am powerless over my adult daughter. Her life is unmanageable, and mine is becoming that way.
2. I came to believe that kicking her out would restore me to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn her care and her life over to GOD.
4. Made a searching and fearless inventory of her stuff and put it on the curb.
5. Admitted to GOD, to myself, and another human being the exact nature of my enabling behavior.

And so on.

You cannot control your adult daughter. You can only, in a limited way, shield her from herself.

I hope you choose to do the correct thing here. If you do, your daughter will be very anger and she will be more than willing to verbally assault you as a result of your decision. You cannot do the right thing and make her happy. It's impossible.

Best wishes. May GOD give you wisdom, strength, and peace as you struggle with this issue.

Jay

Hi Ann,
I read your notes very carefullu and I must tell you that you do ALL you can legally do.  I am afraid you can't do much more.  Try to open her eyes to do the right things and warn her B4 she does the wrong / irresponsible things and bach her emothinally.  She needs your love your warmth and your guidance.  Make her feel that you'll always be there for her.  Pray to the good Lord that she'll not fall in one of those deep pits.  You'll have to be very strong ! (and it won't be easy).  
Best regards,

well, it's obvious that she has issues in life. If I were you, I would give her 2 options:  tough love  :  either you assist her in seeking psychiatric counseling and demand her to go to a gynecologist/general practitioner  ..  OR  ..  the other option, as difficult as it may sound, kick her out of your life, move her as far away from yourself as possible, and forget about 'someone else's kid'.  She's now an adult, you did your bestest to raise her, she doesn't listen to you ~ hey, girl ~ get a LIFE! When is it that a mother/father, after spending so very much of their time, hard earned money, caring attitude ... when does it or should it all end?  When was the last time that you took a vacation without any worries in your life????