My wife says the same thing. I'm a daytrader. The mentality is this, 1) You know you can be successful at trading. 2) 40K is a drop in the bucket compared to the potential returns. 3) 40K is just "training" and it is. 4) Its the perfect stay at home job. 5) It's not an addiction to try to support your family. 6) You're able to take advantage of the market when you are mentally in tip top shape. 7) You are wise to the world around you.
Symptoms: 1) Irritability when you ask a question out of turn. 2) Irritability when you walk into his environment and he snaps right when he is intimately involved in a potentially profitable trade. 3) He is more than steadfast in his determination to succeed. 4) He has spontaneous sex with you and masturbates when you are there or not around. 5) He believes in God but lacks the "final" give-it-all-to-Him phase. 6) He is generous to a fault and has desires to take care of "everybody" around him should he become more than successful. 7) He loves you to the point of hating you. 8) He has an explosive nature that wasn't there when you first met. 9) He doesn't spend enough time in the Bible. 10) He is preoccupied with spending time with the computer "continuously". 11) He ignores you when you need attention to more pertinent family or household matters. 12) He studies the markets continuously to fault even when away from the computer and will be mentally preoccupied when not at the computer, mentally calculating, writing down numbers in this way: X 24, X 5, X 4, X 12--with 4 weeks off to spend with you but never seems to take any time off. 13) He is acutely aware of handling debt and writes notes to himself about payoff increments. 14) His desk is a mess with inconprehensible "data". 15) He speaks about his charts and you only see "squiggily lines". 16) He watches Bloomberg, etc and will rush to the computer to verify his findings. 17) He tends to "shortcut" the accountant.
The simple cure: 1) When he is away from the computer, quietly annoint his forehead with oil and pray out loud for him, he may not be able to respond appropriately, but he will be deeply moved to "nourish" the seed. 2) Have your girlfriends invite you to church and have them do the same for you. 3) "invite" him to church and share his "burning desire to succeed" with a needy man, not a woman, this will establish a kindred need to be there to help bring along someone else. 4) He desire to procreate his behavior will be hard to do with other Christians since they don not know what the hell he is taking about, however; they will appreciate his commitment and determination whcih they will gravitate to. 5) Support and love him to a fault and don't mention his suicidal trend to others. 6) Find peace within yourself and remain in God and "sick" the Holy Spirit after him. 7) Have him become "friends" with the pastor, elders, deacons, and anybody closely connected with the church and have them follow up with him afterwards. This is very important. 8) He may go once or twice but lack the follow through. 9) Mention you read an interesting parable from the Bible and share "the experience" with him. This will enhance that the Bible is real to him. 10) Ask him to read and help you understand one verse you are "having trouble with."
Result: He will become well adjusted. He will remain a daytrader but a "system" trader , whereby the computer gets him in and out all day long. Make sure you see the performance report with at least a profit factor of 3.0. This will remove a major emotional element to his trading and unblock his focus and vision. He will become incredibily profitable and all the things he said he would do will materialize in your family and through the church as well. He will ultimately praise God rather than his own doings. He will become incredibily humble and generous.
Let me know how he comes along. Kevin Koceja, Deacon-in-training, owner of my own business, and a successful daytrader.
