How would I determine what kind of mental illness my spouse has? I have been to areas online but it seems the symptoms cross over into different areas. I want to help him and help myself. He will not see a doctor about it and i don't dare mention anything as he becomes violent. He is currently on medication for something physical which has made his mental state worse.
I want to do the right thing for this as i care for him deeply. At this time he wants nothing to do with me and avoids me. I handle things as gently as I can. He has always been and more so now then ever:
violent, controlling, paranoid, sleep disorders, refuses to eat what i make for him and eats junk food, possibly doing cocaine again (in the past he was an addict), verbally abusive to family members, constant negative thoughts and statements, hate for anyone different than him, jealousy if we want to not spend time with him, angry if anyone disagrees with him, unable to get over simple barriers (the anger from anything lasts for weeks), has lashed out and struck me a few times, I have hit back so he does not do it anymore, also i have threatened to call the police if he does so now he hates me for it and is angry that he can't hit me anymore, has severe temper tantrums at work and at home which take forever to get over. Basically he is mad because he can't bully me or other people anymore. Please give advise on how to respond to him for his benefit and our benefit.
