Yeah. AOL sucks. That is why they are going bankrupt...no one wants to pay for something that has never been fixed from day one.
One fix is after logging into AOL, search their A-Z listing for "start up". You can change it to not load on start up. Another way is to click on "start" on the bottom of your desktop screen. Click on "Run". Type in "msconfig". This will bring up a windows screen for configuration. At the top, click on the tab that says 'start up". Uncheck the boxes that say AOL (I have at least 3). This will prevent AOL from loading when turning on your computer, which also makes your booting time less because it is not loading programs that you don't want right away. You don't have to reboot then, but the next time you turn on your computer, it will say that you changed something. Click on the box that says "don't show me this again" (or whatever it says) because you already knew that something was changed. Hope this helps.