My 7 year old gets emotional and misses me "a lot"

Hi, ---------------- You are absolutely right, something bothers him. You are smart to realize it. There are many possibilities. If you want to solve the problem (sure you want) you MUST find out what are the REAL reason(s) for it..... You'll have to be very smart and sensetive and it might not be easy but it is a must (cause the key to solve it is there). If it happened all of a sudden than you might have half a clue: Look at all the event he went through just prior to that time..... ------------------ Best regards,

I think you are right that something else could be behind this.  Its worth making gentle enquiries of your son.  You don't say how old his younger sister is but she may have some idea of whats upsetting her brother when your not around.  Equally, I wouldn't make a big deal of any of this around him as if he is "pulling your strings" a lot of fuss may be just what he wants.  I'm a working mum with three children who have been in day care, 2 now in school, who have thrived with their carer but from time to time they have been reluctant for me to go.  I've found that if I stayed calm (even if I haven't felt it) and "matter of fact" this phase soon passed.  Good luck

I'm wondering if there is a Dad around. (?)  Our children are so dependent on us for stability and structure, that unconditional love of a parent. I certainly don't want to put some sort of guilt trip on you, today we all have to work to survive, but I would bet that your Son just wants his parents.  He is still very young and probably feeling insecure for himself and his little sister.  He may also be bored, or feeling neglected by whoever is caring for him... then again he may be having a lot of fun and just wants Mom to be having fun with him!

I always worry about the future impact of things on children. I would say try to talk to him one on one as often as you can, but not on the phone while you're at work... it's obviously only upsetting things worse for both of you. (Tell him you can't take calls at work anymore). Someone will call you incase of an emergency right?  Then just try every chance you get to spend quality time with him and his sister... lot's of talking and affection.. try to make up for lost time.  It sounds to me like your child is just lonily and alittle lost right now, and doesn't know how to be grown-up about it yet.   Good luck to you.