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What should a guy do when he meets a woman that he’d like to pursue a more “serious” relationship with?


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The FIRST thing you should do is lean back and give her space.



   Most guys want to try and "corner the market" as quickly as they can when they meet a woman that they like, and try to convince the woman to be exclusive immediately.

   In my experience this is a BAD idea for a few reasons:

1. You don't know her very well yet. I make it a personal rule to not get into a "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship with a woman for at LEAST 3-6 months. I want to get to know a woman before I'm interested in being attached.

   I once met a really hot girl for a cup of tea, and she told me that she likes to date a guy for a couple of weeks, then form a monogamous, long-term, boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with him, then sleep together.

   This was all at the first meeting I had with her over a cup of tea.

   I told her that she was crazy, and that I'd never get into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with some woman that I'd only known for a couple of weeks... and then I left.

   I had images of coming home in a few weeks and finding her going through my closets and saying "Who's is this?"

   Get to know a woman before you make your decision!

2. If a woman is the type that will get into a serious relationship with you quickly, then
there's probably a good chance that SHE has some issues.

   The last thing you need is a clingy woman that is out looking around for a man to complete her and give her life meaning...

   So you're doing the right thing. Nice.

   If you want to pursue a relationship relationship, then you might want to actually start doing a sweet, romantic thing or two every once in awhile.

   A card, a flower, etc. is all it takes to communicate your message. But use them wisely, and don't start acting like a needy wussy!

   Also, when you start saying things like "I was thinking about you", "I really like spending time with you", and other lovey talk it says the same thing.

   Again, use sparingly... especially with independent women!

   And ultimately, if you want to actually have a real, honest-to-goodness relationship, then tell her how you feel about her.

   If you think she's worth having a relationship with, then you're going to need to take the risk at some point of telling her.

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KissLive & let live.

A suggestion might be to ask some very serious questions playfully perhaps over the barbequeing of chicken or something.  Questions like: 

These are ?? you ask her okay..  Pay close attention to her voice and body language and then her answers.

 What do you like in a man?  What don't you like in a man?  What kind of man do you respect?  Name three words that describe traits a man must pocess in order for you to take him seriously?  And then share some of yourself with her (perhaps some of your experiences that have had profound effect on you and be sincere)..

 Good Luck..


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This is a hard one to answer without more information about the present relationship! If you want something more than the only thing you can do is tell her though one of 2 things are going to happen yes or no... either way you will know where you stand! At least you know whether to take your toys and go home or take her home to play with your toys!


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    Begining a committed relationship is a serious undertaking. First be sure you are ready and willing to commit and stay that way. When you find someone you "click" with get to know her likes and dislikes. Her views and money, politics, religion, family, career, marriage and children need to be agreement with what you are willing to accept even if they don't agree 100%. (nobody agrees 100% get used to it). After that communicate, communicate, commmunicate. Getting to know someone is an adventure, enjoy these days, you will cherish them the rest of your lives. Let her know she is important to you. Listen to her. Pay attention to what she is passionate about. 

  Most important of all is to make the relationship the center of your attention. End all other relationships. You don't have to be hurtful doing it but you MUST do it. Just be honest and let everyone know you have found someone special. If it is meant to be things will fall in place. Then it's up to you to keep it that way. Relationships require your participation at the begining and from then on. You will need to compromise along the way but always remember she is compromising too.

Good luck hope you find true happiness. I have  


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Live simply, love generously and  care deeply.

 

When a man wants to pursue  a more serious relationship, he tries to get to know her better, show interest in what she does, show respect, give small gifts to show thoughtfulness and then just tell her that you really like her a lot to consider a serious relationshi and see what her response is.

     She should also feel the same way as you do for this relationship to  turn into  a  good match.

    Hopefully you will suceed to win her attention and love.

 


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