Co-Dependent?

This guy is obviously not marriage material and if you are looking to settle down, get married and have kids one day you need to get rid of this loser ASAP and find someone who shows you respect and appreciates you. Just leave him like you have done before but this time move forward and don't look back. Stop falling for his sweet act. That is exactly what it is, an act. He knows that's all he has to do to get you back is shed a few tears, send some flowers,take you out,etc. And once you take him back, he is back to his old self-disrespecting you and treating you like crap. You need to believe that you deserve better and realize that he is definately not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. There are a lot of nice guys out there and you are wasting your time with him. You already know this, so have the confidence to make the next step and leave him for good. Have faith in yourself.

Hi,

   I agree with Janissa, gave her 2 thumbs up.  Let me tell you this, when I was reading your question, it seemed that I could have written it long time ago.  Your man is  exactly like my ex-husband, he did not treat me right, verbally and physically abusive, and when I threatened to leave, he would be overly nice to me, and I forgave him again.  It was a crazy cycle that drove me almost crazy.  So I decided to leave and not look back.  It is  a sigh of relief to be without a jerk in your life.  I feel a lot better and feel happpier.  There are a lot of nice men out there, you just have to be patient, don't be in a hurry to have another relationship.

    You can leave him, don't be miserable all your life.  You'll feel a lot better without a jerk like that.

Its better to do it now before it gets too late.......... Try to concentrate on some other person and make him feel jealous thats the only policy u can adopt if u want to stick to ur boyfriend.

If u have really decided to leave him just believe in urself and do it. This world is full of nice guys, you just have to open your eyes. 

I agree with the first two answers above. With this type of man you are with nothing will ever be good enough, and you are not the reason why. He is just trying to put you down so you will have low self esteem. I understand you have been with him for 5 years but my advice is move on, maybe not right now but in the future you know the signs of what type of man you need to be with, one who wants a family, and wants to grow old with and accept you for you. You deserve that, and he should have always treated you nice not just when you break up, there are so many wonderful men out there and you belong with one