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I’m really self conscious

My boyfriend wants to give me oral sex but I’m REALLY self conscious I have never let anyone go down on me before because of this barrier I have, but I can’t seem to let him do it. , I have told him how I feel (really venerable and self conscious that it smell or taste funny cause officially us girls do our business down there (and I am hygienic I thought I put that in) and he understands and is not trying to push me in any way and respects how I feel but at the same time he gets upset because he likes giving it also he feels and believe I don’t feel comfortable with him, what can I do to make myself more confident with myself?? (I’m 19 no medical history)

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AnnieSu

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I understand your insecurities. Every girl experiences that around your age. If you love and trust your boyfriend then you will just have to work on feeling comfortable with him. Clearly if he has told you that he wants to do it and enjoys doing it then you do not need to be concerned about being put in a vulnerable position. He respects your needs and insecurities and I am sure will go at a pace that you are comfortable with. I promise you that once you open up to him, and feel confident in his attraction to you, your connection both phsyically and emotionally with reach a completely different level! Good luck and remember, he has a different appreciation for your body. While you may not understand it, he thinks every part of you is beautiful as it is.

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First and foremost, don't feel pressured by anyone to do something you're not comfortable with. If your boyfriend loves you, he will respect that you're not comfortable with this sexual behavior. If you want to try and open up with him but are scared/worried about him being turned off by a smell or it being hygenic, there are ways to fix this. You can try to use a vinegar and water douche mix and use a wipe to clean the area before you and he partake in such behavior. If you are not comfortable in general with your body, that's something you must work on by yourself. I hope this helps.

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Sex is all about communicating , I think it's the highest form of communication. You have to feel very comfortable with your partner to receive oral sex. It also varies some people never have oral sex so don't think you are that special:) .Communicate tell him other things you like and tell him it hasn't anything to do with your love towards him. Tell him you enjoy him more when he is up close, mention the fact thats its not because he doesn't know how to preform it well its because you need to get used to the idea and it will take you time. Enjoy.

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