My boyfriend wants to give me oral sex but I’m REALLY self conscious I have never let anyone go down on me before because of this barrier I have, but I can’t seem to let him do it. , I have told him how I feel (really venerable and self conscious that it smell or taste funny cause officially us girls do our business down there (and I am hygienic I thought I put that in) and he understands and is not trying to push me in any way and respects how I feel but at the same time he gets upset because he likes giving it also he feels and believe I don’t feel comfortable with him, what can I do to make myself more confident with myself?? (I’m 19 no medical history)
I understand your insecurities. Every girl experiences that around your age. If you love and trust your boyfriend then you will just have to work on feeling comfortable with him. Clearly if he has told you that he wants to do it and enjoys doing it then you do not need to be concerned about being put in a vulnerable position. He respects your needs and insecurities and I am sure will go at a pace that you are comfortable with. I promise you that once you open up to him, and feel confident in his attraction to you, your connection both phsyically and emotionally with reach a completely different level! Good luck and remember, he has a different appreciation for your body. While you may not understand it, he thinks every part of you is beautiful as it is.
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First and foremost, don't feel pressured by anyone to do something you're not comfortable with. If your boyfriend loves you, he will respect that you're not comfortable with this sexual behavior. If you want to try and open up with him but are scared/worried about him being turned off by a smell or it being hygenic, there are ways to fix this. You can try to use a vinegar and water douche mix and use a wipe to clean the area before you and he partake in such behavior. If you are not comfortable in general with your body, that's something you must work on by yourself. I hope this helps.
Sex is all about communicating , I think it's the highest form of communication. You have to feel very comfortable with your partner to receive oral sex. It also varies some people never have oral sex so don't think you are that special:) .Communicate tell him other things you like and tell him it hasn't anything to do with your love towards him. Tell him you enjoy him more when he is up close, mention the fact thats its not because he doesn't know how to preform it well its because you need to get used to the idea and it will take you time. Enjoy.
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Great answers Folks and I would say helpful too. For some oral sex is their cup of tea, not so for others. For me It's the nicest way of saying I love you. And then at any age,Well, Our Joy-Toys,penises, don't always work, that is, maitain their erection, and stand-up and be counted-on. But then the good news is, my oral penis never lets me/her down. Perhaps that is one cause of Infidelity,not getting at home what you can get somewhere else.And in the cheating we can get the eating.
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I went through this exact thing, freaking out because i had a little mole above it...and he ended up LOVING it...if your guy wants to do it, count yourself lucky and try to let him. Use the restroom first and nonchalantly wash it out if you want to feel more confident. It's hard to get over insecurities though, I won't lie, believe me I would know...I have a lot of them. Just keep working on it! Good luck, it feels AMAZING.
This is a VERY personal issue. Your boyfriend should NOT push you = you say he doesn't, but then in the same sentence you say he pressures you because your refusal makes him think that you don't feel secure with "Him". So, he's taking your problem and making it about him. Please try to understand that men see our bodies differently than we do . Some men love this as a part of lovemaking while other men are completely turned off by it. Apparently, you feel uncomfortable having him in such close contact with this area of your body. If you cannot do it - then you just have to tell him so. However, if you think you might bewilling to try it and see how far you can go - talk to him about it. Tell him that he must be willing to STOP if you say stop - you might find that you like it more than you think. Take things slowly. As far as your worry about body odor - as long as you are freshly bathed - and there is no infection of any kind - then tell him he can start SLOWLY!!!! YOU SAY "YES, NO, AND ENOUGH!!!" If he's patient and you can trust him to do exactly what you ask him to do (nor NOT do) you may find that you will come to enjoy this activity more than you realize. Still, whether you choose to make this a part of your lovemaking is entirely up to YOU!!! It's NOT about HIM - it's about you and it's your decision, not his.
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